You’ve heard of microaggressions – subtle yet offensive comments / actions that communicate negative attitudes. They’re as painful as they are unintentional sometimes, and they show us how people really feel.
What’s an ERG? It’s where we can find “our people” at work – especially now many of us are remote and don’t have a cube neighbor. ERGs also work to support their marginalized staff.
“It’s not that female leaders no longer hear that voice. We’ve just gotten better at ignoring it.”
When it comes to the workplace, there will always be challenges – some that are small hiccups and some that are just infuriating. If you could use some tips to help minimize workplace frustrations, keep reading.
Let’s face it, no matter how perfect the job is or how wonderful the leadership is or how much you love your coworkers, at some point an issue is going to arise. So, how are you going to handle it?
Remember this, please. You can never and should never please everybody. Even the status quo is pissing someone off somewhere. Internet trolls have taught us nothing if not this. So Judge your success, not by the reactions of the mediocre who surround you. Judge your success by your own results and how you feel about them.
I wish we talked more about failure. Like everywhere – work, home, friends, with your kids. To build confidence, I say we must embrace it, and the bigger the better! One is because failure suffocates perfectionism, but more so because failure prevents shame. It is a natural human instinct to avoid failure. It’s also natural when we do encounter it, to internalize it. That means we hide it and bury it deep where others won’t find it. But when we don’t air out our failures, we create a deadly equation: Failure + Aloneness = Shame
There’s a super important step in becoming your braver self that nobody talks about. It’s the recognition of when you’re playing small. It’s noticing that fear has come to sit next to you on the bleachers and is running her mouth so you don’t get on the court and play. She’s hard to notice because, in my experience, fear sounds a lot like perfectly logical reasons. Often it feels more like my old friend “busy” sat down. Or even her cousin procrastination. But fear?!
For years I couldn’t even tell you my favorite holiday moment or tradition. It all just whizzed by in a blur of behind the 8-ball moments of catch up and failure prevention. I didn’t have time to plan, and even when I did pull off the PERFECT gift, I felt a little disappointed in the reaction it netted. That’s right, I measure the gift planning to recipient reaction ratio and ROI. Call me a shallow sales leader, I own that.
At #GirlsClub, we talk a lot about confidence, but what does it truly mean? Confidence is a deeply rooted feeling that you’re okay with yourself. Heck, it might even be liking yourself (gasp!). It’s the feeling of self-belief and self-worth. It’s NOT about being perfect or being good at what OTHER people need you to be.
I’m excited to share a very powerful weapon we all have available to beat imposter syndrome.
If you’re new here, Hi. 🙂 I’m LB. We try to do regular installments on beating the widespread disease I define as an ugly underlying and persistent belief that I don’t own nor deserve my own success.
Were you raised to believe that selfishness was essentially the worst character trait you could have? In my household, I was taught that selfishness meant that you do not care for others. It was negative – if I was told that I was “selfish,” I knew that I had failed to show that I was kind. I knew I was a kind person and yet, I internalized this definition of selfishness. Sure, I probably was selfish at times – but what kid is kind or caring 100% of the time?